Friday, February 13, 2009

I can't not comment on this.

Watch this video from this blog:

The woman who says she was going to be one of those "childless by choice" people. Yeah, I was listening to her with an open mind until she said "And then at the age of 21, I met the love of my life, and in the span of 7 months we got engaged, got pregnant...and now we have two boys..."

I don't mean this in a mean way, I'm sure she's a very nice person, but the first thing I thought was "Bitch...please". You thought at the age of 21 you were going to be childless by choice? I really don't think at the age of 21 you are in a position to be making wide, sweeping generalizations about your future. You probably can't even pay your bills.

People who are childless by choice, and I do know some...not many, but some, are people who are actually in a POSITION to be making that decision. Like they are in a committed relationship and have sat down with their partner and had an adult discussion about whether or not they are going to bring a child/children in to the world. They have mutually agreed to not raise children.

Would a person call me childless by choice? Perhaps. I am female with reproductive organs that may or may not be able to bear children (who knows until you try?!), yet I have no child/children. But I am also a SINGLE woman who is a bit old-fashioned. I would never, ever classify myself as "childless by choice"; I am childless because I have not yet met a man to reproduce with. Do I want children? Yes, I believe I do. However I'm not going to be like the bat-shit crazy octomom and get pregnant just to fulfill my desire to have children unless I am in a position to provide them with a safe and stable lifestyle.

I'm getting a little aggravated with righteous mothers. I will admit that Facebook is to blame. On the regular, I am subjected to status updates where people are talking about their child's bowel movements/lack of bowel movements, their bedtime rituals, extracurricular activities, and how they wish they had more time in the day. I am sorry, I just have a hard time mustering up a lot of sympathy for them. Yes, I know motherhood is hard work. I am sure marriage is difficult work as well. But haven't you gotten what you wanted? Shouldn't you stop complaining now? I mean, society affirms that you've "made it". The "American Dream" is often illustrated as having a home and a family with a white picket fence and 2.1 children. Society doesn't often paint the American Dream as a 31 year old single woman, renting an apartment in Chicago who hasn't been on a good date in...gee...I don't know...almost two years? Take a minute to assess your life. No...another minute. See...that's not so bad, is it?


aighmeigh said...

I started laughing my arse off when I heard that woman claim she was "childless by choice" at the ripe old age of 21! Oh, really? Really??? She'd barely gotten out of mommy and daddy's house and she actually thought she was anywhere near a place in life where she could make a claim like that? Hrmmm... jumped the gun a bit on that one, hun.

I promise I will never tell you about the little one's poops... and (ultimately) I have no complaints about the state of my life... most of the time. I think I'll have less to complaint about in a few months. :)

When are you coming out here again? I'd love to go out to dinner... I'll talk my mom into babysitting so we can really sit and chat and have a few bebidas.

Kristen said...

See, you laughed at her comment, while I wanted to punch her. Not a real healthy response, huh?

I will definitely let you know when I'm in MI with enough time to properly get together and discuss the world's ills. ;) I will be in MI a couple times in April for lots of fun sports activities!

Girls Around Chitown said...

:D We like you.