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The woman who says she was going to be one of those "childless by choice" people. Yeah, I was listening to her with an open mind until she said "And then at the age of 21, I met the love of my life, and in the span of 7 months we got engaged, got pregnant...and now we have two boys..."
I don't mean this in a mean way, I'm sure she's a very nice person, but the first thing I thought was "Bitch...please". You thought at the age of 21 you were going to be childless by choice? I really don't think at the age of 21 you are in a position to be making wide, sweeping generalizations about your future. You probably can't even pay your bills.
People who are childless by choice, and I do know some...not many, but some, are people who are actually in a POSITION to be making that decision. Like they are in a committed relationship and have sat down with their partner and had an adult discussion about whether or not they are going to bring a child/children in to the world. They have mutually agreed to not raise children.
Would a person call me childless by choice? Perhaps. I am female with reproductive organs that may or may not be able to bear children (who knows until you try?!), yet I have no child/children. But I am also a SINGLE woman who is a bit old-fashioned. I would never, ever classify myself as "childless by choice"; I am childless because I have not yet met a man to reproduce with. Do I want children? Yes, I believe I do. However I'm not going to be like the bat-shit crazy octomom and get pregnant just to fulfill my desire to have children unless I am in a position to provide them with a safe and stable lifestyle.
I'm getting a little aggravated with righteous mothers. I will admit that Facebook is to blame. On the regular, I am subjected to status updates where people are talking about their child's bowel movements/lack of bowel movements, their bedtime rituals, extracurricular activities, and how they wish they had more time in the day. I am sorry, I just have a hard time mustering up a lot of sympathy for them. Yes, I know motherhood is hard work. I am sure marriage is difficult work as well. But haven't you gotten what you wanted? Shouldn't you stop complaining now? I mean, society affirms that you've "made it". The "American Dream" is often illustrated as having a home and a family with a white picket fence and 2.1 children. Society doesn't often paint the American Dream as a 31 year old single woman, renting an apartment in Chicago who hasn't been on a good date in...gee...I don't know...almost two years? Take a minute to assess your life. No...another minute. See...that's not so bad, is it?