Life can often be looked at as a game of walking a fine line. There's tardy vs. late, drunk vs. out of hand, persistent vs. stalker, and quirky vs. crazy, to name a few. One that I find a lot of my friends (and myself) walking is reserved vs. cold, as it relates to letting people get to know the "real you." To me, reserved means you are a pleasant person, but you're not going to tell everyone everything about you in the first couple times you hang out. Cold, to me, means you are not a warm person (ha! Aren't I good with words?) and after meeting you people are not usually saying "She seems like a lot of fun/nice" because it's possible you came across as a tad bitchy/boring.
My mom likes to remind me that I'm very English (my grandfather, who was my favorite grandparent until he died when I was eight years old, was born in England) therefore I am genetically programmed to not show a lot of emotion to people. It's not to say I am not emotional...I think I kind of am. I get excited when I see dogs in my neighborhood and generally show a "Look! A cute dog!" emotion and I get teary-eyed while reading really great writing or while watching a really touching human interest story. I just do not really enjoy talking about my feelings or showing any kind of negative emotion. I also like to vent but then be totally over whatever it was that I just spent ten minutes bitching about. To me that is therapeutic. To others, that is weird. I'm not someone that needs a fix to all my "problems" (in quotes because I know there are a ton of people who would love to have my "problems"), I sometimes just like to voice them.
What do you think is the fine line between being "reserved" and "cold"? Do you ever get called one or the other?